You see, we're both Whites, with a secondary Blue. Basically the male and female version of each other.
This combination is common in friendships, but not intimate relationships. Apparently, it tends to lack a certain "spark," a "tension of opposites" other combinations provide.
|Alison Leigh Jones Photography*|
In a nutshell, White on White typically leads to a constant struggle with leadership, motivation and being assertive.
The odd thing is, Drew seems to make me more assertive. Much more so than I was in any other relationship, with a blue or yellow or red. The way he never demanded any certain behavior from me; he took what I offered and never once looked displeased. And I think that's what it was. He made me proud of me. I no longer felt the need to walk under and around my own tendencies to placate others' expectations. All that mattered was that I met his.
As far as Drew goes, he's now much more talkative and likely to verbalize his opinions. This is probably common in any relationship, because we're always more likely to talk when we have someone who values our words. But, I tell you, this man used to be like Fort Knox to me. That is, until he figured out that he had chosen a girl with a pathetic need for verbal validation. Then he got talkative real quick. Obviously not as talkative as me, because women use 17,000 more words a day than men, on average. But you see what I mean.
Now, I don't disagree with The Color Code, because that book is like my third Bible. (Blasphemous? Borderline, probably.) All I'm saying is love is its own creature.
*Alison Leigh Jones Photography Website, Blog.